Journal Entry ~ 10/28/17
We need to see our children as God sees them - a work in process. God isn’t finished with them yet. Our harsh tones communicate to our children that they are a lost cause. God doesn’t see the one who stumbles as a lost cause, we shouldn’t treat them that way. We need to allow anyone who’s struggling room to be a work in progress, give them the space to make mistakes and allow God to be the one to work on saving them. We need to stop covering for them, and simply cover them in prayer and love. As parents, we can get caught in the trap of enabling our children to escape consequences or allow them to feel entitled to their sin - that’s not loving them. We rescue them from the very thing that God is trying to use to transform them. God cannot save them if we continue to step in and do it for Him. Then, after we save them, we end up frustrated or angry because we needed to bail them out again, or we act surprised when they make the same mistake again. We heap on another whole layer of guilt and shame, pushing them further away. What if we were to change our response to one of gentleness and mercy? Our natural reflex with our children when they are running counter to what they should be doing is to bring down the heavy hammer of judgment. Ephesians 4 instructs is: Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. We don’t avoid speaking the truth to them, we don’t stand in the way of God’s discipline, but we do speak to them in a manner that is gentle and loving not judgmental and self-righteous.